reducing Conflict in Divorce And Separation
“When I was faced with a life scenario I once thought unimaginable, my family breakdown, no amount of education, schooling, or experience, had me prepared.
I was incredibly lucky to meet Belinda. Belinda’s help to me was in the two main ways: to detangle the confusion brought about by a sheer volume or papers and possible branching points of separation law, and to walk through the fear of it. Her approach is completely different than that of a lawyer. I suffered physiological and emotional abuse during my failed marriage, and it was clear that the amount of manipulation I have been exposed to significantly affected my judgement.
Belinda understood this immediately, while the lawyers focused on material gains, and sometimes games. The greatest help that Belinda gifted me was that understanding of what is that I need, and what I needed at different times. The fact that I was the central figure from a purely human point of view, was the most valuable to me, and I cannot overemphasise it. She listened, listened, listened.
She created a picture of me and my life, and once she knew what would be the most helpful to me, she slowly, but surely, lead me by hand through it. She answered the most embarrassing questions with utmost attention. Many questions she answered more than once, every time with equal attention to detail, and every time with the same grace. She consulted her colleagues on every single matter where she thought I may have a better solution to a problem. The fact that I was in London and she was in Cambridge was no problem in our communication. When I was going through difficult periods, not wanting to communicate with anyone, she maintained our communication unobtrusively and looked after me. She always knew at which stage I am, so I never needed to go over the old ground twice – I am so grateful, these grounds are painful. When I called out of the blue in panic, I was meet by her calm and reassuring voice on the other side. Belinda was like an old, compassionate and understanding friend, with the massive added value of knowing the language of law and procedures to follow.
My case is not over. But I would not be where I am, and by that I mean sane and not fleeced by lawyers, had it not been for her human qualities first and foremost, and her knowledge of law. I hope no one needs her services, but, to those who do and come across this wonderful woman, I have one advice: look no further.”
“I am far less terrified than I was when I started. Much of that is thanks to your patient interventions.”
“The psychological support is very important. Feeling I’m not doing this alone, as well as the legal advice, is what has helped me to keep going. Also, you have spent so much time thinking about my situation that you know it inside out, and quickly know what to do when something comes up”.
“Many, many thanks for your time this morning. I was very upset and worried. I still am to be honest, but you have helped me bring the balance closer to some sort of positivity and confidence. And that is enough to go through the day somewhat productively.”